Archive for November, 2011
This one’s for guy’s eyes, but women, you’re welcome to be a fly on the wall. Which is perhaps a good spot to inhabit while taking a fresh look at the confusing, confronting topic of men and their porn habits!
While most of my work as a Relationship Expert and Coach is about the preventative, I’m simultaneously a pragmatist. There are fairly easy ways to prevent the unhealthy (but too often inevitable) issues that plague relationships, like dismal communication, habits hidden from our partners, discomfort with intimacy and lack-luster sex – just like there are fairly easy ways to prevent unhealthy (but too often inevitable) issues that plague our health, like weight-gain, lethargy, crappy food choices and chronic illnesses.
Ever a pragmatist, however, I take just as much stock in the ways things ARE as in the way they SHOULD or COULD be. I take just as much stock in ACTUAL behaviors as the ways we SHOULD or COULD behave.
The pragmatist part of me knows that about eighty percent of men watch porn. And these are well-meaning, emotionally aware, intelligent, all-around-good-guys we are talking about here. For whatever reasons (which I’ll touch on briefly later, compliments of my preventative part), men watch porn. Period.