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When you have the keys to how a man works, he gives you the keys to himself.

I have spent the last month interviewing a series of phenomenal men, asking them things like:

“What do you want most from a woman?”
“What would compel you to commit?”
“What makes you feel like a stud, a rockstar, a MAN?”
“What shuts you down and makes you want to leave?”

If you are anything like me, their answers will shock you in all the best ways, move you to your core, restore your hope in love – and make you piss your pants laughing at times.

Watch your email inbox over the next days and weeks, because I’ll be letting you know when the videos are ready for your viewing pleasure.

In the meantime, check out these choice tidbits … let me know your favorite moments from the video and WHY … and get yourself read for the Man Whispering video interviews!


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My husband sent this blog post by Arjuna Ardagh to me, quite a gift to receive from a man, to a woman. Enjoy!

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A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed:

“I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage has become the guru, the salvation, the muse, the crack through which the divine shines through.”

When I woke up the next morning, there were the usual offerings of people who liked the post as well as comments. One man had the vulnerability and courage to post this on facebook:

“Thank you Arjuna for this sharing, I feel like [I’m] in front of a choice which is between feeling envious of what you have and I don’t, or instead to decide that ‘I want that too,’ and, as you show, it is possible…”

I was touched.

Over the next days, I got several more messages like this from men: vulnerable men, honest men, rare and courageous men. They came in as private messages on Facebook or through our website, and they all said basically the same thing:

“I read your Facebook post. I want what you have. Show me how to get it.”

So, friends, here it is. The short guide on how to worship a woman, and why it’s the wisest thing that a man can do. First of all, lets pop a few very understandable doubts that you might have. I’m familiar with all of them.

1.    “I’m wounded and damaged in my relationships to the feminine.”
So am I, dear brother, so am I. My parents divorced in a messy way when I was four. I grew up alone with my mother. She did her very best to provide for me, but she was unhappy and insecure. By the time I started to have relationships with women myself in my early teens, I discovered that I had a mountain of resentments, fears, and separation in my relation to the feminine.  The conscious practice of worship can become a part of healing the wounds.

2.    “Arjuna, you’re lucky. You’ve got an incredible partner. I’m together with a woman who’s not like Chameli.”
I really don’t have the ultimate answer to that doubt or question. It certainly could seem to be the case that I’ve been lucky in finding a great woman, but here’s how it happened for me. I’ve had a lot of less lucky connections in my life. I’ve experienced my share of the manipulative side of the feminine: the victim, the rageful, the revengeful. And I have seen the ugly side of the masculine psyche in myself.  A few weeks prior to meeting Chameli, my wife, something deep and profound shifted in me, which I believe can shift for anyone in the same way.

3.    “I don’t have a partner at all, and I sometimes doubt if I’ll ever meet anybody.”
Being with a partner where worship is not flowing, or not being with a partner at all, are basically two aspects of the same situation: you’ve had an intuition or a glimpse of the possibilities of a deeper love, and you want more of it. The solutions are the same.

4.    “I feel my heart is closed down. I live in my head a lot, and I wouldn’t even know what worship was if it broke into my house at 2 o’clock in the morning and held me at gunpoint.”
That’s where the whole thing starts for all of us, when we realize that we don’t yet know how to love. And that’s that the big question that you have to consider: “Is that okay with me?” Never mind how much money you make, or how many friends you have on Facebook, no matter how nice a house you live in, or no matter how big a car you drive, no matter how impressive your partner’s bust size, or how much you meditate and become spiritual… have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way? If not, and here’s where you have to be honest with yourself, is that OK with you? Is it OK to die one day without the heart’s gift having been fully given?

Eight or nine years ago, I came to that question in myself, exactly that, and I discovered that the answer was, if I was was raw and vulnerable and uncomplicated, that it was actually not OK. If I died one day without having fully loved, it would not have truly been a life well lived.

Many many years ago, I went to Bali for a vacation, on my own. I met up with some other young travelers there and we hired a Jeep to take us on a tour of the island. We drove up right to the highest point of the island, where Tourists don’t usually go. Our guide took us to one of the most sacred temples. It was surrounded by a big brick wall with an ornate entrance. After removing our shoes and wrapping scarves around our heads, we stepped together through this entrance. Inside, there was a short courtyard and then another brick wall with another entrance. After more preparations of lighting incense and giving offerings, we stepped through the second entrance. We were allowed to go through the opening in one more wall, but that was it. All together there were ten walls around the deity in the middle. Hindus could go beyond the fourth wall. Devotees of that particular deity could go beyond the fifth wall, and so it went on. The only people allowed to approach the deity directly were those who had given their lives completely and totally to its worship. Everyone else could come a little closer, a little closer, to the innermost beauty, but not all the way to the center.

I’m not a big believer of the worship of statues, but there’s a beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a woman’s heart is just like that. At the essence of every woman’s heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every woman’s heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. But it’s protected, for good reason, by a series of concentric walls. To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesn’t even know consciously how to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by the keys of worship.

If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you have available to you, like many other unfortunate men, is pornography. For $1.99 a minute, you can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love.

Step though another gate, and she will show you her outer gift-wrapping. She’ll look at you with a certain twinkle of her eye. She’ll answer your questions coyly. She’ll give you just the faintest hint that there is more available.

Step through another gate with your commitment, with your attention, with the small seedlings of devotion, and she’ll open her heart to you more. She’ll share with you her insecurities, the way that she’s been hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will back away at this point. They realize that the price they must pay to go deeper is more than they are willing to give. They start to feel a responsibility.  But for those few who step though another gate, they come to discover her loyalty, her willingness to stick with you no matter what, her willingness to raise your children, stick up for you in conversation, and, if you are lucky, even pick up your dirty socks now and then. And so it goes on. You’ve got the gist by now.

Somewhere around the second wall from the center, she casts the veils of her personality aside, and shows you that she is both a human being and also a portal into something much greater than that. She shows you a wrath that is not hers, but all womens’.   She shows you a patience that is also universal. She shows you her wisdom. At this point you start to experience the archetypes of women, who have been portrayed as goddesses and mythological figures in every tradition.

Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all the layers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. You discover the very essence of the feminine, and in a strange way that is not exactly romantic, but profoundly sacred all the same, you realize that you could have got here with any woman if you had just been willing to pass through all the layers of initiation. Any woman is every woman, and every woman is any woman at the same time. When you love a woman completely, at the very essence of her being, this is the one divine feminine flame. It is what has made every woman in history beautiful. It’s the flame behind the Mona Lisa, and Dante’s Beatrice, and yes, also Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. You discover the magic ingredient which has lead every man to fall in love with a woman.

When you learn how to pay attention to the essence of the feminine in this way, you fall to the floor in full body prostration, tears soaking your cheeks and clothes, and you wonder how you could have ever taken Her, in all of Her forms, for granted even for a second.

This was sent from one of my readers and I thought it too cute not to share:

“And thus, dear students, we have arrived at the formula for understanding women”.


As you get more acquainted with your Named One, take a look at how She’s shown up in nature, religious and spiritual traditions and art.  These are images taken from the book, The Yoni: Sacred Symbol of Female Creative Power by Rufus C. Camphausen.  “Yoni” is the Sanskrit word for female genitalia, the source of life.  It’s counterpart is the Lingam, the phallus.

Notice, as you pay more and more attention to your Named One, which stage you are in (we all go through most all of these stages): disgusted, numb, indifferent, interested, celebratory, awe, reverent.


1. Natural rock formation!


2. The “lips” of this natural rock formation in the southern California desert were painted before the site was used for initiation ceremonies for the girls and women of the indigenous Kemeyaay tribe.


3. Natural rock carving!


4. A unique altar of the goddess, clearly designed for the practice of Yoni Puja. This eighth-century stone sculpture clearly showe the rim where the libations poured upon the Yoni would collect.


5. Another natural rock formation used as a place of worship in the US. this one can be found on the Crawford Ranch in California’s San Diego County.


6. In this unique Japanse terra cotta, the Buddha is seen meditating in front of, and perhaps, about, the Golden Gate, a Chinese term for the Yoni. Although it may be surprising to many contemporary Buddhists, this sculpture conveys the same message as a passage from the Condamaharosana Tantra, wherein the Buddha is quoted as having said, “Take refuge in the yoni of an esteemed woman.”


7. Most famous among all the sheelas is this stunning stone carving from the church at Kilpeck, Herefordshire. By opening her vulva as wide as possible, this figure seems to show us where we come from and, perhaps, to invite us back into her womb once life comes to an end.


8. In this fifteenth-century painting, the artist has embedded Mary and her divine child within a madorla, a universal symbol of the Goddess and the Yoni.


9. Georgia O’Keefe’s GRay Line With Black, Blue and Yellow (c. 1923) is as beautiful as it is suggestive.


10. This beautiful wood carving from southern India shows a woman menstruating, most likely during a ritual celebration in which this specific female energy was both venerated and absorbed by the practitioners.


11. Fascination as well as a feeling of inferiority are depicted in artist Gottfeild Helnwein’s surreal work Lulu (1988), an imagery harking back to prehistoric times.


12. For his time, Gustave Courbet’s Origin of the World (1866) (L’Origine du Monde) was a daringly realistic and explicit work of art. Although his title suggests a respectful stance toward the Yoni, his contemporaries could not but regard this as pornography.


13. A real live yoni! (nope, not mine! ;-P) Body adornment. In essence, piercing one’s genitals is not truly different from piercing one’s earlobe. It does, however, require a positive view of the body and sexuality.


14. The famous Doni of Laussel, a 26,000 year old limestone relief found in France. In her hand she hold the archetypal mode of what later became known as the “horn of plenty” or the infamous “box of Pandora.”


15. Convincing evidence of yoni worship can be found in this 12th C stone carving from the Sixty-Four-Yogini Temple at Bheragat, Madhya, Pradesh, India.


16. Natural rock formation. A place of mystery and stillness, but not of solitude. To the worshiper, the Goddess resides in such natural formations that reveal the Yoni of Mother Earth.



17.  The Virgin Mary of Guadelupe; any resemblance to a Yoni or is it just me? (this image is NOT from the book Yoni)


The topic for the month of September, at least in my little corner of the world of women, through my membership program, the Radiance Inner Circle ( is: Women’s Sexuality!

Where are you right with yours? Where are you out of whack?

Where are you integrated with your sexuality, and where are you all kinked up, so to speak?

Sexuality: what are the ways we, as women, fully embrace this source of our creative power whilst in the shadow of a cultural mythos that places women’s bodies as the source of original sin?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, feelings and musings.

A new client of mine, recently wrote this poem, and I thought I’d share it.  Hold on to your hats, cuz it will take you on a wild ride.  I was struck immediately how this woman OWNS her sexuality, perplexing parts and all.

I Love My Dirty Mind

by Sarah H. Brown

My dirty mind is a wild wild place With dirt so rich and deep The jungle can’t sleep Where wild animals grow And wild animals know What it is to be free The raw power of nature And ecstasy The filthy dirt in my mind Makes the wild vines climb Up trees so silky smooth When the rains come through And the honey sun drips true I explode inside When I taste wild fruit I’m not through Every leaf Every flower Every drop of dew I experience new And my scream is the sound Of my gratitude My dirty mind is a filthy place Where sweat is the measure Of pleasure and grace And the wild beast Roams to be fed By the jungle that grows From my dirty mind’s bed My dirty mind sees The Garden Of Eden pleased By the depths of mud and soil Dripping with flowers, fruits and delicacies To this I will always be loyal So the masses may judge And the preachers condemn Though my dirty mind has more heart Than those I offend Than those who claim it as sin So be as you will In your safe sterile spite Block your ears Close your eyes If I’m too full of life I love my dirty mind

Next week, I’m interviewing a guy who literally wrote the book on Why Men Do What They Do.  Seriously, he authored a book called Women Own All the Vaginas: Why Men Do What They Do.

If that book title didn’t singe some hairs off your raised eyebrows, then I don’t know what!

Are you as curious as I am to get the inside scoop from Richard Nocera, hairdresser, businessman, author and educator?

Women, men – this is not to miss!

Interview with Richard Nocera, author of Women Own All the Vaginas

Free tele-class interview
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
5:30pm Pacific time; 8:30pm Eastern time

To hold your spot and register for this fr*ee interview, use
this link:

I’ll get Richard expounding on:

* Why men life, distort and avoid true feelings

* Why men cannot keep a lifelong pledge of 100% monogamy

* Why heterosexual men need to come out of the closet and talk about how they actually experience their sexuality

* 29 uniquely interwoven characteristics that make a man a man

* Healing your past and becoming sexually honest

* Men have no Oprah!

* And you’ll be able to take the quiz and find out “What type of man you are.”

Mr. Nocera’s forty years of experience – owning and operating a chain of hair salons located in Boston’s exclusive western suburbs – has given him unique insight into human nature and female led relationships.

As a confidant, he listened carefully while both men and women talked about their mates, their desires, their vulnerabilities, their disappointments, and their secrets. His personal life experiences, coupled with 25 years he spent in therapy, propelled him to write his book, Women Own All the Vaginas: Why Men Do What They Do.

I’m delighted to be interviewing him next week!

That link again to hold your spot and register for this fr*ee interview:

This is gonna be a live one! I hope you’ll be there.

And if you have thoughts on Why Men Do What They Do – or if women really own all the vaginas, leave a comment!
Best, LiYana

New York Spirit Magazine’s Enlightened Sex in the City presents:

The Happy Woman Quotient
by LiYana Silver

(from New York Spirit Magazine, October/November 2007)

sunworship copySince I write this grandly titled column, Enlightened Sex in the City, I figure it couldn’t hurt to start by trying to pin down this slippery eel, “enlightenment.” The term for me is a bit like “carbs,” which includes equally a piece of Wonder Bread or a fresh peach, two very different animals indeed. As I see it, on one hand, enlightenment is a realization of one’s Self with a capital “S”, being awake to one’s nature, or an abiding realization of what does not die when mind and body does. From this place, an “enlightened” one often exudes happiness, fulfillment and loving kindness. On the other hand, I hear enlightenment referring to a cultural and moral standard for behavior and comportment in life; as in it is more enlightened behavior to tell the truth, less enlightened to lie, cheat or steal.

For my purposes in this column, I refer mostly to the first “definition” of enlightenment: a deeply personal realization of who you ARE, fed by your own direct experience. This can be different indeed from how you comport yourself in life. I am less interested in behavior, and most interested in experience, since your direct experience often dictates your behavior.

In a recent issue of “What Is Enlightenment” magazine, I ran across this quote by Leslie Temple Thurston: “Many years ago, I found myself asking Spirit what it would take to save the world. And the answer came clearly and immediately: a lot of enlightened women.” This doesn’t mean a lot of women ACTING enlightened, or behaving in the “enlightened” fashion de jour. This means a lot of women fed by the realization of who they are, awake to their nature, alive with the privilege of being a woman, turned on, turned up, full of light; and then living, acting and behaving from there.

How exactly are women the key to “save the world?”

I spent the past two years throwing myself headlong into research of this seemingly elusive condition, happiness. One place that yielded incredible bounty was Morehouse, an intentional communal living collective, offering courses on communication, sensuality, man/woman dynamics and what they have found, in their 40 years of research and experimentation, it takes to have a happy, fulfilling, fun life. In the courses I took, the dynamic and authentic teachers offered their observations of what works, and what doesn’t; they “describe” rather than “prescribe.” In their observation, the health of a group, whether that is as large as a culture or as small as a relationship, can be measured by the happiness of the women. And it is from here they start: when the women are happy, everyone is happy; when they women are unhappy, somehow no one else is happy. And if you look around in your own life experience, you’ll likely notice that most women around you are shut down and pissed off. Maybe you’ve never even seen what a happy, radiant woman looks like.

It’s a good thing to define “happiness,” too. There is no universal standard; you know when you are happy and when you are not. Generally, though, as defined by the veterans of Morehouse, happiness is a function of approving of what is, not what you wish to be so. When you find your life and your self good, right and wonderful, you are happy.

As many advances and liberations that women enjoy currently, we are still considered second-class citizens. Our cultural, societal, economic, emotional, medical, sensual – and many spiritual – belief systems are all prejudiced to reference the male as standard. Any straying from the standard is considered deviant. So women, like other oppressed groups, have learned – as those considered to be deviants learn – that it is not safe to be as we are and that we are not welcomed as we are. We have learned that since the playing field is not equal, we have to lie, cheat and manipulate to make up for the unfair advantage in order to get what we want. We have learned that what we want is not important; we have learned to bury what we want – or we attempt to not want at all. The result is a bunch of royally pissed off women, swimming in a sea where we are constantly found wrong and bad; hungry and depleted at every level.

The remedy is simple. Fill up the women.

As I practiced the simple, organic, generous philosophies of Morehouse, my heart and head blew wide open. Imagine: recognition of the anger I didn’t even realize I had; a system that saw me, appreciated me and invited me to do the same; actual tools to lead a happy life. I took the courses to work out some kinks in my relationship to myself and in my partnership; and I began see all the ways I was doing a disservice to me and my relationships by focusing on what wasn’t working, since that put my attention on what was wrong or bad. There is an astounding universal law at play: you can’t move from bad to better, you’ve got to go from bad to good, and then from good to better. It’s just the way the progression goes: bad to good to better. No short-cuts. The magical thing is to start from finding good, right here right now. And from this heart-opening, gratitude-overflowing place of what is already good, you can address what’s not working and help things to move toward better. Even when I work with couples, this is where we start – from what’s already good. Only from good, only from approving of what is so, not what we wish was so, can things get better. Any person, but especially a woman, who can find her life and self good, begins the necessary process of filling up.

Women are in need of nourishment, emotionally, physically, spiritually and sensually. A gratified woman is a unique and precious commodity; she is a fountain overflowing. Giving from surplus creates more; giving from deficit creates anger and resentment, even if you are really good at hiding it or burying it. A woman in surplus is a delight and a gift to everyone around her. A hungry woman might just be the meanest thing around.

Research indicates that between 30-50% of women have difficulty or never experience orgasm or satisfying sex. Sexual pleasure is mostly defined by penetration and orgasm standard as that of a man’s – but this does not necessarily take into consideration the physiology and make-up of most women. Our religious legacy is that most of our problems started with the lustful, sinful nature of Eve – culturally we have a deep mistrust of women’s sexuality. Many spiritual traditions define enlightenment and spiritual ecstasy from a male perspective – so often women try to fit themselves in to a model of spirituality that is passed off as a universal model, but is more a male model. It still costs more to dry-clean a blouse than a shirt, and a woman still earns about 77 cents to a man’s dollar. But regardless of how, why, when and where, you need only to look around to see women drying up and gasping for air.

How then to feed and fill up a woman? Women are accustomed to being overlooked, ignored and disregarded. The simple and powerful antidote is to see us, pay attention to us and to give us your full-hearted regard. We want to be noticed not as a formula or how close we’ve come to emulating a male model of success in business, spirituality or sex, but as a unique being. This may seem overly simple, but it is the profound start to a much-needed cultural shift.

Women want to be radiant and happy, but we cannot wait around for guys (or people in general) to catch on and start paying attention to us. It starts with taking personal responsibility for our own happiness. It starts with a large dose of courage to find ourselves and lives right, right now. All this, I have noticed over 5 year of working with clients, takes a huge paradigm shift. It takes a level of understanding how you are wired and what to do with that. It takes a realization that if you are losing, it is by your compliancy. It takes the ability to communicate, to tell the truth, to be open and vulnerable. In working with women, this is where I always start.

Women start to fill up when we find ourselves regarded no longer as second-class citizens; when we begin to realize we no longer have to lie, cheat or manipulate to get what we want; and when great value is placed on or happiness. Only when saturated in our own goodness and rightness can we women awaken to our very nature; only from a place of surplus can we behave with loving kindness, compassion and radiant light.

It may take a long time of this to fill us up – our wells might be very dry indeed.

When you have to pick either the chicken or the egg – focusing on the happiness of the women or of the men – you have to pick the women. A happy woman naturally wants everyone else around her to be happy and get exactly what they want. This is not necessarily the case with happy men. A happy man is a great thing, but he does not necessarily affect the level of happiness of the group, as does a woman. And often, what makes a happy man is that his woman is happy; if she worries about whether he’s happy, her worrying makes him unhappy.

It is not that men get ignored in this equation. It does no good for either gender to feel disregarded, unable to give their deepest gifts. Generally what happens when a woman receives attention and approval from a man is that she wants more than anything for him to be happy and enjoying his life. A woman who is full and gratified is full of the very creative life energy that created us all. Anything that is full overflows generously on everything that is in its path.

Here we are, men and women alike, in the middle of our lives playing the game of love, sex and relationship, and playing it from an enlightened perspective. The founding father of Morehouse, Dr. Victor Baranco says, “If you’re going to play the game anyway, why not win?” It would seem the winning formula is to start with approving of and placing attention on women, nourishing us in all our dry, cracked places. Women also need to take full responsibility for our own happiness, not to delay our joy one moment nor wait an instant for our culture to catch up. And somewhere in the middle, the women get watered.

Is a woman who is happy and radiant a fully enlightened being? Rather than speculating, let’s ask her, shall we? And either way, I figure, a world abounding happy women, defining “happiness” by our own surplus and generosity, defining “enlightenment” by our own lit-up behavior, is a pretty great start.

Have a thought on the Happy Woman Quotient?  Comment below!

To all the power women in my world – that includes YOU – and the men who love you.


And by Isis, if this moves you in a small or big way, leave a comment below!


If you want to change the world… love a woman – really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing-
every winged one, every furry and scaled one,
every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,
every not yet born and dying one…
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.
If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet,
you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.


If you want to change the world… love a woman -one woman
beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,
beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety
and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices
we have forgotten that true liberation
comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire
and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see -really see
if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.
If not, walk away. Right now.
Don’t waste time “trying.”
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her
because ultimately it’s not with who,
but when we choose to surrender.


If you want to change the world… love a woman.
Love her for life -beyond your fear of death,
beyond your fear of being manipulated
by the Mother inside your head.
Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her.
Say you’re willing to LIVE with her,
plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,
by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess
through your adoration and devotion.


If you want to change the world… love a woman
in all her faces, through all her seasons
and she will heal you of your schizophrenia-
your double-mindedness and half-heartedness
which keeps your Spirit and body separate-
which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self
for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman.
Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one
and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,
trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesn’t need any more choices.
What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,
of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,
of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots
strong enough to hold the Earth together
while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.


If you want to change the world… love a woman, just one woman .
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.
Love her through her fear of abandonment
which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.
No, she is not weak in her co dependence.


If you want to change the world… love a woman
all the way through
until she believes you,
until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,
her wildness have returned to her-
until she is a force of love more powerful
than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.


If you want to change the world,
lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.
Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger
and love a woman…
beyond all of your striving for greatness,
beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you
if you would only take her in your arms
and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.


What if peace is a dream which can only be re-membered
through the heart of Woman?
What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine
is the key to opening Her heart?


If you want to change the world…love a woman
to the depths of your shadow,
to the highest reaches of your Being,
back to the Garden where you first met her,
to the gateway of the rainbow realm
where you walk through together as Light as One,
to the point of no return,
to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.


Continue reading ‘If you want to change the world … love a woman’

On Wednesday, March 31 I have the pleasure of being interviewed by Relationship Expert, Vera Poole, on her Ask Vera radio show.

She interviews experts, authors and leading edge voices on the issues that are relevant to couples seeking relationship clarity and connection. This month, that would be yours truly.


4.StrawberryFeeding The Feminine: the key ingredients for extraordinary relationships
with LiYana Silver

Wednesday, March 31, 2010
8:00-8:30pm Eastern Time


What we’ll be covering:

– What key things have relationships flourish? Or perish?
– What are the best things a woman can do to support her relationship?
– What can a woman do to tap into and expand her power, radiance and confidence?
– How is this helpful to our relationships?
– What are the hidden things that women might not know we are doing, that hurt our relationships?
– Is it just women who have access to “the Divine Feminine?”


Join us, ask your questions, or simply be a fly on the wall:

Ask Vera Show (


I look forward to hearing from you through the venue of the spirit and wisdom of the Ask Vera show!

If you can’t make the Ask Vera show, ask your question or post a comment below. I’d love to hear how the Divine Feminine is moving (or not!) in your relationship and love life.

Best, LiYana